Preface -- Unit 1: understanding yourself -- The personal essay -- Perception, focus and attention -- Inner monologue -- Write your beliefs -- Write others' beliefs -- Unit 2: Leading yourself -- Unwanted beliefs -- Authentic voice -- Adopt a new belief -- Adopt a challenging belief -- No, but, however -- Avoid, imposing, values -- Feedforward -- Unit 3: Understanding others -- Write your models for leadership and emotion -- The model -- The method -- The method, more challenging -- Unit 4: Leading others -- Meaningful connection -- Make people feel understood -- Lead with empathy -- Inspire -- Support and manage.